MY SIMPLE YET NOT SIMPLE DEFINITION OF LOVE.

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"There is no charm equal to tenderness of the heart."

—Jane Austen

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Lovelies, I realized that the definition of love is nothing standard.

For instance, the same way you end up choosing the one for you is the same way you choose what love means and looks like for you based of who you are,your perception and your love language thus day in day out, love continues to mean different things and appear differently for each one of us and that's okay🔆😊.

But here is what love looks like to me,

(P.S: Y'all please don't come for me saying I'm living a fairytale 😂)

From a young age, I have always been such a sensitive and sentimental person, so love for me is in the smallest of ways and actions, today I will talk about what a romantic relationship kinda love looks and feels like for me❤🥺

Love for me is friendship, getting to know each other for every bit of sentiments that make us who we are.

From the movies that make me so excited and the books I will never stop talking about,

Love for me is rewatching them with me and engaging in a conversation later where we laugh and talk endlessly about my favorite parts that are now ours to share,

It may also be you genuinely listening to me rant about my dissatisfaction with the ending of the movie or crying about a certain character's misfortune in the movie lol!🤭😅

I am always gonna talk to you about just how much I love Kinoti and Ethan Muziki and Justin Bieber or whoever else has a spot in my heart,

I will most definitely even make us a playlist of all our favorite songs because I want us to fall in love with each other's songs, for me that makes me childishly happy🥰🥺

I am such a sucker for words so for me, genuinely spoken, written, or typed out words make my heart jump about with love🥰❤.

Hug me when we meet and tell me just how beautiful my outfit is or how much you love my scent,

Send me paragraphs or even a message as short as, "I love you" randomly within the day.

Send me tiktoks or Instagram posts that you bump into and they remind you of me or us.

Once in a while compliment me for the small efforts and progress I make each day but I don't see for myself or remind me that I am doing great and you are proud of me!

I think all I am saying here is that words of affirmation make me feel so much love and affection.

Love for me is never getting tired of the small compliments and the I love yous' in different ways.

Love for me is spending time together just talking endlessly and laughing together in whatever place cheap or expensive, simple or lavish, as long as it's with you.

Love for me is buying me like 5 smokie pasuas every time we are hanging out but now I have to discover something else after my relationship with Indomie became toxic and we had to end things❤😂.

But I am a sucker for anything chocolate, crispy and spicy so now you know.

Love for me in making things, places, and activities our own hence it becomes our thing together🤗🤎.

My heart melts whenever my person remembers the little things I said or did and they randomly bring it up on our 10 pm calls or our ice cream date,

Aaaah like you were actually listening to me gosh?🥺

Not forgetting when my person starts suggesting movies, blogs, songs, or books for me because they know it's something I'd love.

Getting heartfelt messages in the morning or before I sleep,

Send me a song that reminds you of me or communicate with me using a song so sweet and wholesome.

Learn the songs I can't get enough of and sing them with me in my not so good singing voice🥰🤭.

Such beautiful and genuine moments ❤️

Hold my hand in the streets of Nairobi because roads creep me out.

Check-in on me but leave a message when you're busy all day and I'll be at ease, patiently waiting for you to call me when you're done with your errands.

Do those weird and goofy things you do on days when clouds and storms fill my life and add some sunshine to my days with the laughter they fill me with,

Hype up my projects, my educational performance,

Just basically be my number 1 cheerleader and support system.

I am a sucker for phone calls because I wanna here your voice and smile while at it🤭,

Just you and me,tell me all your worries,your fears,the things you're afraid to say out loud because I love when my person is open and free to have such deep,raw and open conversations with me🥺🌜.

Be my confidant, my best friend, my safe space,

Call me out and correct me when you feel the need to🤍

Be open and honest with me about even the most painful of truths,

Pinpoint the things about me I need to work on to grow as an individual, in my school work or in my career path, whatever.

All these and so much more are what love feels and looks like to me!

I guess this is what is termed my love language 🥰🔆

Sounds like a fairytale but someone once told me, "You will find the one that will learn to speak your love language and it won't be too much or too little for them🥺🤎"

Well, you see dear readers, two weeks ago, as I was sitting on the train, on my way home from the streets of Nairobi, I couldn't help but think about this small but big word, 'LOVE'. I honestly have no specific reason as to why that's the only thing I thought about all day or maybe I had actually begun thinking about it that fateful night my person told me that they couldn't be my person anymore. I was crushed, broken, and in so much pain because a part of me thought that love was discovering the dark skeletons and flaws your person had and still choosing them regardless of all that. I thought love was being patient and accommodating with the dark parts of your person that they were still working on healing and mending each day. I thought love was communication, telling your person even the smallest and dumbest of things about your day, your future, and your dreams. I thought love was being able to say, "Hey, I know we both messed up big time but I am willing to still do this with you and go through this with you no matter what it takes!" To be honest with you guys, I thought love was being able to bring oneself to that point where you say to your person, "Hey babe, this is all I am about, this is who I am but I am willing to work on the things about me that omit that beautiful smile off your face, please just give me some time to work on myself as I make an effort to love you like you deserve to be loved!" Deep down, I still wanted to believe that love was being able to listen to your person, their fears, their insecurities, and how they expressed the deep things of their heart and soul, and in return, you acknowledge how they feel about certain things they spoke about no matter how big or how petty. I thought to myself, that love was trust. Trust, is such a huge part of this small but big word since everyone is always saying that you can't love one that you don't trust. Love is trusting that your person is going to catch you when you fall, Love is trusting that your person will love you no matter how much you are afraid of being real and honest with them, Love is trusting that your person is always gonna have your back no matter what. Yet again, love is hope, Hope that you get to spend eternity with your person, that they get to be your forever, your future. Funny thing is, I had a whole future figured out with my person, from seeing his future unfold and him finally getting his Hollywood dream come true, The wedding, a lavishly grand, and beautiful wedding, with me walking down the aisle to 'Kesho Kutwa' but we would always argue about one thing: I wanted a private wedding and he wanted a big public wedding but in my words, "What's the point of having thousands of people in the wedding only to pimia for them food at the reception"😂😂 I have honestly never understood this but I had other reasons and so did he but in those moments, we would laugh so hard and it felt wholesome❤ And that was the beauty of the love we shared, the genuine moment of happiness made it home!🥺

I thought love was honesty and transparency!

Regardless, I would never finish telling this story because so much goes unsaid but will forever be in my heart❤️.

I still believe love is all these things that I have mentioned and so much more,to different extends,intimacies and intensities 🌻.

So after that, I thought a lot about love and realized that I am still learning and growing in certain aspects and that's okay🤎🤍.

I'm honestly still trying to crack this whole love part of ourselves and am sure so many of us are doing the same thing too🥰

Good thing is love is timeless,it's gonna come when you least expect it☺️ and you'll know it and feel it🤎.

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Hello there lovelies🤗🤎.

I hope you are all doing well and keeping warm, safe and sane. Thank you for keeping up with today's entry and my apologies for disappearing for some time🤗. Let me not make excuses for my procrastination and inconsistency but frankly speaking, I was dealing with matters of the heart but I think I am doing much better at the moment☺️🔆.

Shoutout to each one of you for making it here today because I may not know what it took you to be here🤗. I love each one of you and I am definitely grateful for the Storieswithhope Fam! Sending love and hugs to everyone going through a hard time. I hope you know you can always text me on the member's chatbox in case you need someone to talk to🤎🦋.

Remember to check up on your friends as well🤗🔆

#Mentalhealthawarenessmonth.

My highlight these past few weeks has been the super fun and beautiful moments that I got share with my favorite humans and humans that I have just met recently who are vibes upon vibes🦋✨. The space I have been in these past few weekends has been timely for my mental and emotional being, I have been happy and content and definitely recharged to just go on with these phases of my life. Thankful for each one of them individually🦋🥺.

I also got to attend the Joyride experience by Ben and Wanjiru and I have never been happier🥰📍.

#Unconditionalloveischoosingthesamepersonoverandoveragainnomatterwhat!❤❤

SONG SUGGESTION❤:

For real by Watendawili is vibes on vibes gosh!

Uko poa by Ethan Muziki because he never disappoints!

Ndio by Rehema Simfukwe is such a bombass gospel jam heeh!

Until Grace by Tauren Wells came through for me this whole period!

🌻I hope you enjoy these songs!🔥🤩

MOVIE SUGGESTION❤:

I haven't really been on Netflix for a while but you should definitely check out the Joyride Podcast by Ben and Wanjiru though it's not a movie😅

FYI, if you haven't watched Young, Famous and African then you better get into it because heeh, it is definitely worth the watch!😂🔥🙌

Thank you for all the love and I hope you enjoy today's entry✨! So much love for you all tribe❤🦋! God loves you🥰❤! You are doing great❤! I am proud of you🦋🥰! Love and Light!✨❤!